Discover powerful techniques to unlock our potential for success. By applying these secrets, we become the person we’ve always wished to be as we create the life we truly want to live.
It’s amazing how we can change our lives by altering our way of looking at the world.
For example, we may ask ourselves whether we truly love ourselves and by transforming any negative limiting beliefs we can unlock inner power to transform our lives.
It happens incrementally, gradually opening up for us, until one day we look around us and think, ‘Wow!’
For me personally, applying these tips as well as recognising how I was giving away my power helped me to make exponential shifts in my life and achieve the kind of life I used to dream of.
So without further ado, here are some essential secrets to help you change your life around and see success reflected back at you when you look in the mirror.
The Problem with Much of the Generic Advice
There’s a LOT of generic advice out there. You know, the kind which tells you to: ‘Be more productive‘ or: ‘Be original.’
‘Think outside of the box,’ they say.
‘But how can I do that?‘ I wonder silently.
Yeah, sure. Thanks.
I hear you, so I should become a super-active, high-flying, hugely productive, highly-original person and do amazing things. (But what does that actually mean? Sub for whatever subject you want to be successful in.)
The problem is, these generic comments don’t tell me HOW to be more original. How to produce more in a day. Or how to find the time when my day’s already choc-full!
And how do I suddenly change my personality to BE original?
These things come naturally to us if we happen to be super original, but if we don’t already possess them, we can’t just click our fingers and change our whole personality.
We can be authentic to ourselves but we can’t make ourselves fit someone else’s idea of original.
Even so, we will always be original because there’s only one of us in the world.
But reading that we should be something more than what we already are can be frustrating.
It may be an interesting read on a brain level, but to have an impact, the words need to be put into action.
Pure brain information isn’t enough because it won’t ripple down to the subconscious level.
Only when you start applying particular behavioural changes repeatedly and over time will your subconscious mind buy into it and then you can reap the benefits.
So how to get from where you are now to where you want to be?
If only you had a magic looking-glass which would analyse your life and tell you exactly what steps to take!
I know the feeling.
I mean, how many times have I looked up at the sky and asked the stars to send me my next step, my next action, my next sign pointing me onto the road for growth?
How many times have I searched the web, looking for clues?
But as I said, just reading what you need to do won’t give you any actionable advice.
In order to change you need to know how you can shift from the way you’re doing things now (or the way you’re thinking things now) to the way you need to do or think to be successful (according to your idea of success).
This shouldn’t be confused with manifesting the life of your dreams; when you choose to manifest something into your life, the one question NOT to ask, is HOW.
But we’re talking about growing ourselves out of our stagnation and into our power.
In this post, we’re going to explore 9 secrets of success which you can apply to make the changes that may help you to become successful.
Because once you unlock it, the rest falls into place.
Who Am I?
Who am I to talk to you about success?
Well, I’m not yet what you might call mega-successful in terms of humongous wealth or fame – but in my book, I’m 100% successful, because I’ve created the life which I’m in love with.
I’ve gone from thinking I can’t afford to do anything, to living in complete harmony.
So buckle up and let’s get going because you can nail this thing and become the most successful version of you, step by step.
And once you start, those steps continue forever and these principles become second nature.
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#1 Mindset for Success
Ask yourself: what is success for you?
Is it about having something or is it about feeling something?
When we chase after material things, we aren’t actually setting ourselves up for success because nothing changes. We’re passively wanting to own something, or desperately wishing that we owned something.
Neither of which is productive. Both are grounded in a lack-mentality which will only invite more lack into your life (and I’ve experienced this first hand too).
That’s not to say that you can’t desire material things – but for this to work, the material possessions are a consequence of your success rather than the end goal.
We need to focus on how we want to feel when we’re living our best version of success.
What will the material things allow us to do that we can’t do right now? So instead of thinking of money, think of what you will do with the money and how that will make you feel.
And instead of just imagining a new car, think about the freedom or the exhilaration that a new car will bring you.
Working from these feelings, you’ll be able to take different actions than you would from your negative or wishful point of view.
We need to recognise that everything we’ve done has created our current level of success and everything we do is creating our future reality.
In order to break out of the mould, we need to think differently and act differently.
Easier said than done?
Maybe, but once you understand the mechanics it becomes easier.
Basically, to change anything, you need to first change the way you think about it.
#2 The Be Do Have Model
Most people think wish their lives away thinking something along these lines: HAVE – DO – BE
I want to have a big house (have) so I’m going to work hard (do) and then I’ll be happy (be).
Or, When I have enough money, then I’ll go to the gym and then I’ll be happy. (have, do, be)
But we have this all back to front!!
To get success we need to BE the person who will DO the stuff necessary to GET (have) the results we want.
Be – Do – Have!!!
Not the other way around!
This concept has been widely spoken about by people like Tony Robbins, Steven Covey and many more inspirational coaches.
My hugely inspiring yoga teacher Nathania Stambouli from Yogi Flight School talks about this inside the course too.
It’s the key to unlocking your hidden potential.
When you imagine yourself with all your success, that person is actually a different person than you are right now. That person will think differently and act differently to the way you do now. Because that person knows they’re successful.
You need to BE that person.
So that you can DO what it takes to HAVE the results you seek.
This is life-changing. Just knowing this can alter the way you go after success.
Be the person you want to be first. What would I do now if I really believed I was a successful person?
And for sure, you’re mind is going to throw up hundreds of excuses – oh I can’t be the person with success when I don’t have a penny to spend!
But while we all have limiting beliefs, the difference between success and not can be traced back to how much credibility we give and how much power we lose, listening to our limiting voices and expecting things to come to us rather than the other way around.
Take Action for Success #2 – Limiting Beliefs
Become aware of your limiting beliefs.
In your notepad, take a whole page and write a list of all your negatives. Keep adding to it as you catch yourself with another self-criticism.
Leave a space next to each criticism for later.
Allow yourself time for this stage, over the space of a few days, and don’t go on until you feel that you’ve got them all out.
All those nasty gremlins that pull you down.
Everything you of as a weakness or failing on your part.
Don’t hold back, really include every little horrible thing you say to yourself about yourself.
Got them all? Sure? Right, we’re ready to go on to the next step then.
Action Step 2
Next, create an opposite word or sentence for every single negative. So if you’ve written that you’re ‘too serious‘, write the opposite of it: ‘great fun‘. Use a different colour.
If you’ve written that you’re ‘too big’ or ‘overweight‘, write, ‘my body is perfect‘.
Or maybe you think you’re ‘undeserving of a partner‘? Then next to that, write ‘I’m both loving and loveable’.
Be sure to counter comment every single criticism.
The reality is that we always have both sides of a trait.
So someone who is generally negative will also have areas when they are positive. One can’t exist without the other.
So by doing this exercise, you’re training yourself to recognise that the two can co-exist. If one negative trait has become all-powerful, it’s just a matter of re-balancing with the opposing characteristic.
As you write each positive trait, remember yourself or imagine yourself behaving in that way.
If your insecurities are about your body, think about the many ways your body serves you well.
For example, if you think you’re overweight, perhaps you can remind yourself that your body allows you to walk up the stairs. Wow, how blessed I am to have a body to walk up the stairs with!
And so it goes on with every complaint you’ve written down.
It takes time to realise just how much we knock ourselves down.
Make it a mission to feed into your positivity and give yourself the love you deserve.
#3 Reality is an Illusion (or an Interpretation)
Remember that reality’s truly an illusion. Or maybe better described as a reflection. Or an interpretation.
One situation plus 30 people = 30 different interpretations, 30 different experiences & 30 different tales of what happened.
What we believe, we see around us.
If you don’t believe it, just think how many times, when you’re running late, you’ll find a tractor in your path on the way to work.
Or when you’re feeling down, how few smiles you encounter that day?
So when you want to change something on the outside, you first need to transform the inside.
Take Action #3 – Think in Alignment with How You Want to Experience the World
Visualise yourself living your ideal life.
Feel how it feels. Fill yourself with the energy, the mindset and the determination of the person you aim to become.
Do this every day as often as you can.
Imagine how you would feel, how you would think, what time you get up etc.
Don’t do it as wishful thinking, like daydreaming, no, really put yourself into those shoes as much as possible and react to your life from that mindset, knowing where you are headed.
If your journey is a long one (i.e. a huge change from where you are right now to where you want to be), then aim to move just one step forward. In your heart, you keep yourself set on your goal, but you move forward in baby steps.
Remember we can only ever move one step from where we are.
If you’re a vision-board kind of person, make a vision board. Cut out images and pin them together on a board where you can see them.
Personally, I don’t like to make vision boards, I prefer to do a magic drawing, but it’s all about personal preference.
If you’re like me and prefer not to have a vision board, try making a magic drawing.
#4 You Are Not Less Worthy than Other People
Imposter syndrome is a thing.
Why do we all have the feeling that other people are better than us?
That they know more than us? Or that they expect more from us than we can give?
We feel we might fall short of the bar.
But when you remember that everybody around you also has their insecurities and that you’re just as special and unique as they are, then you can begin to grow without this fear.
You can make mistakes and show your vulnerability.
You don’t need to be perfect to succeed. In fact, the opposite is true. If you aim for perfection, you’re turning a blind eye to the yin or the yang.
Because no circle is complete without both the yin and the yang.
So if you try to obliterate the dark side (imperfections, mistakes, gaps in knowledge etc.) you’re setting yourself up for failure big time.
Better to be transparent and share all of yourself with the world.
Take Action for Success #4 – You Are a Thousand Times Enough
Think about everything you’ve lived through in your life, up to this moment and imagine yourself 5 years ago.
What do you know now that you didn’t know then? Maybe you’ve lived through distressing times during these past 5 years. If so, don’t let that discourage you.
Oftentimes, when we’ve been through internal crises, trauma, or another type of difficult emotional times, that’s when we have most to offer somebody else.
Because although you don’t realise it, you’ve survived through an experience and come through the other side.
What if you haven’t had anything exceptional happen in your life, I hear you say?
Well, then dig deep down into your philosophy and ask yourself a question: if you were going to upload some information from your knowledge to the young child version of you, what information would you share with them?
We are all ‘good’ enough. We just need to be true to who we really are.
Of course, I wouldn’t be good enough to get a part as a star actor. Because that isn’t true to who I am.
I would be utterly useless. 😂
And the same goes for many things.
But for those areas which are in alignment with our souls, those are the areas where we can excel.
There are plenty of people who would benefit from and appreciate your wisdom or love or advice or whatever it is you seek with the word success.
If you compare yourself to others and feel deflated because you see people who are more successful, more confident or more wealthy than you are, then you’re letting a simple statistical fact rob you of your happiness.
Because statistically there will always be people who have to be more successful than you are. Just as there will be those who are less successful – according to your scale of judging success that is.
The trick is to not let it stop other people’s genius take away from your own progress.
Take Action Part 2
Draw a big circle in your book and divide it by drawing an S through it – creating the yin and the yang.
On one side, write one word that describes you and on the other, in the matching colour write the opposing word, the antonym.
So if you tend to say you aren’t very smart, write ‘not smart’ on one side and then, in the same colour write ‘smart’ on the other.
Build up as many adjectives as you can think of which in your opinion describe you. As mentioned earlier on, if you have the negative word, you also have the positive word in your reality.
If you think you are at all ‘ugly’ in any way shape or form (and I sincerely hope you do not), then be sure to write ‘beautiful’ on the other side of the circle.
Once you’ve filled your circle with adjectives, pay attention to the positive words. Feed them with your energy. Read them each evening before you go to sleep. Read them just before you meditate.
Doing this can be powerful to increase and nourish your positive points and also to bring them to your awareness. If you ever find yourself slagging yourself off with a negative word, immediately summon the accompanying positive word.
For example: ‘I’m so fat and ugly, who would want to marry me?’ Immediately this thought pops into your head you immediately link it to its opposite. ‘If I’m fat and ugly I’m also slim and beautiful. That version of me exists too. I am grateful for my inner beauty and my slim self who exists also.’
This may sound the same as exercise #1 but it isn’t because #1 deals with your negative limiting beliefs. In this circle we’re writing every single adjective we think describes us and then adding the opposite.
#5 Not Everybody Has to Like You
I read somewhere that the more amount of negativity you can take on board is directly related to the amount of success you’re ready for.
I can’t give credit for this sentence because I don’t remember who said it, but it resonated with me and I realised that I (at that time), absolutely hated getting a negative comment (or negative whatever).
I took everything personally. It would stress me out. I would go red and flushed. That negative insult would cost me my tranquillity for a while. Deep insecurity raged within me. Perhaps I had been wrong to post that comment. Perhaps I was stupid. Oh dear, what were they thinking of me?
But that has changed in me now. I realise that in this life, no matter what our goal is, whether success is about finding our soul mate or becoming CEO or successfully starting our own business – we need to be able to love ourselves enough first. Only then can we let go of those people who would do us harm.
Release the comments on social media or the jealousy in the workplace.
Ignore them. Well, ok that’s not quite true – first, see if there’s something you can learn from it and then ignore it.
And let’s be honest, if there were a heap of nasty comments awaiting me tomorrow, I’m not pretending that I would carry on as usual without blinking an eye.
I would be upset, but I would try not to let it into my deeper core.
In order to be the person who has the life you’re dreaming of, whatever that may be, you need to love yourself regardless of what other people think of you.
If you find yourself in pain because of what one person says/writes about you, remember this: there are 8 billion people in the world and you only need to resonate with a small percentage – your tribe – and to them, you can give your whole self – the rest don’t need to get through your outer skin.
In fact, it’s a logistical statistical fact that some people will HAVE TO not like you.
And once you know that, you can let it flow off you like water off a duck’s back.
Related post: 17 Ways to Stop Wanting Everybody to Like You
Take Action for Success #5 – Choose Your Tribe
Think about your goal and in relation to that, define who is important to you. Give gratitude for those people in your life.
If you can, try networking and making contacts with people who are successful in your chosen goal. This is easier said than done of course, and not something I personally find easy to do.
But if you can, do it.
Surround yourself with the right kind of people. Some of their way of thinking will rub off on your.
If, like me, networking is a tricky thing to make happen right now, find forums and online courses instead and hook up with like-minded people there.
You’ll be surprised how powerful it is to be surrounded by people who share the same ideals in life.
#6 Focus on the Process, Not the Result
Focusing on the process is one of the most powerful switches you can make.
Change how you do your daily life and you’ll end up in a different destination because you’ll have changed your trajectory.
In other words, we are all on train tracks, heading in a particular direction.
We just don’t normally realise which train we’ve stepped onto. So we may be heading full speed towards London when we want to go to New York 😂.
So you can see how this causes confusion when we get frustrated because we want to be in New York and we sit and whinge about it without realising that we hold the power to change it. We are where we are because of how we do/think things.
When we focus on the track we’re on, then we change the destination.
Not only must we focus on the process, but revel in it.
Study it, improve it, and learn from it.
Fall over and get back up again. And again. Just set your train tracks at the destination you want, and keep heading in that direction.
This brings me to the next point. But first, the actionable action . . .
Take Action for Success #6 – Keep a Journal
Keep a journal with all the ups and downs, ins and outs. Write your goals, your successes and your disappointments into your book.
Keep track of your weekly goals and structure your time to get the most out of it.
Use the journal as a way to organise your time and a way to reflect on your progress.
You’re going to dive deep and make notes of everything.
Remember 97% of the work needs to be done in your mind before you even start to put it into practice. So use your journal as a place to practice your thinking.
Any change that you want to see happen in your life, see it first within your mind’s eye.
Clearly. Feel it. Live it. Breathe it. Journal it (if you like).
You need to be able to feel the success in your bones, to believe it in your heart and in your subconscious mind.
Once you have that mastered, the rest is about putting into practice what you’ve already built within.
So make a habit of writing in your book. Give yourself challenges and reflect back on them.
#7 Celebrate Your Failures!
They aren’t actually failures.
Failure has to happen. They propel you forwards, they show you what’s not working. Only by experiencing mini failures can you find the solution.
Don’t beat yourself up for your failure in something. Instead, think about what you can learn from it.
Because you HAVE to mess up when you’re choosing your own trajectory. There is no other way.
You simply can’t go from point A to point Z in a straight line. Otherwise, you’d already be in point Z.
So when you start paying attention to where you want to end up, yes, you will have diversions. You will go on detours. You will fall over.
You have to be prepared to keep going and learn from your mistakes.
There’s nobody alive who’s successful without some failures under their belt.
I will repeat that in a different way: every successful person has shit loads of failures under their belt.
They kept going without any guarantees of their trajectory. They just believed in themselves enough to keep going.
The only guarantee you get is the one that you give yourself – that you’re never going to give up. And if you never give up, you will eventually reach somewhere cool, no matter what it is.
Because you’re not going to keep doing the same thing you’ve always done, which would mean you’d get the results you’ve always had.
No, you’re going to pay attention to the NOW and work on the process while holding your direction very firmly in your heart.
All of us at some point in our lives let failure beat us down and make us feel small or ridiculous or incompetent.
But without those failures, it’s impossible to succeed.
Of course, you might say that you’ve had too many failures for one person to bear. But if that’s the case, sit down and write down a takeaway which you’ve learned from each failure.
There will be more than one takeaway, but write a minimum of one for each experience.
Recognise who you were at each point in time. Appreciate what has become possible because of those failures.
Celebrate your failures!
Take Action #7 – Switch Out of Failure Mode
Make a written or mental list of all your failures. Now look at them in a different light. Now they are trophies which you won because they’re in the past.
For example, I tried to set up businesses in the past and failed miserably.
But those failures mean nothing today. I wouldn’t even want to be tied to those terrible business plans which I thought made sense at that moment hahaha.
So they failed and they moved me forwards.
Go through all the things you think you failed at and recognise why they weren’t actually right for you.
#8 Give Gratitude
It’s almost impossible to move forwards from where we are without first being grateful for this present moment.
By learning to give gratitude for everything you have, you open the doors for more to flow in.
When we focus on what we haven’t got, we invite more of the same experience – lack of something.
You may choose to focus on gratitude in your meditation, or you may prefer to keep a gratitude journal. Or both.
However, you prefer to do it, give gratitude every day for all the blessings you have in your life.
Take Action #8 – Gratitude
Make it a habit to give gratitude for everything positive in your life. Give gratitude before you go to sleep and when you wake up in the morning.
Write in your journal every day or every weekend 3 things you’re grateful for.
#9 Take Time for Self
A super important ingredient for success is giving yourself what you need to be nourished. Maybe you love a game of squash with your best friend, or like me, yoga is your exercise of passion. Whatever it is that sets you on fire, make sure to dedicate some time every day to you.
Another thing I believe strongly in is only feeding yourself positive food. That means whole-foods plant-based.
If you choose to eat meat, fish or dairy, you’re ingesting the pain and suffering of others. Not just that, but a wfpb diet is the healthiest diet for longevity, in my opinion.
I’m not advising you of anything, just sharing my opinion.
Eat for health, move for health, take care of yourself and then create a successful mindset.
Final Thoughts on How to Unlock Your Potential for Success
Thoughts create beliefs. Beliefs create action. Action creates consequences. Consequences create results. Results become our reality.
If you only read something to think about it for a moment, then discard it, there will be no ripple effect.
To create change, real lasting change, you have to take action. That action can be invisible, interior action. Action that maybe only you will know about.
But it has to happen. One way or another, if you want different output you need different input. It’s logical. The old saying says, if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.
Now’s the time to say adios to that saying and start shaking things up a bit.
Do things a bit differently. Plan your trajectory.
Celebrate every little win, no matter how small. If you fall, get back up again.
If you go on a detour, who cares as long as you get back on track?
Set your tram tracks in the right direction for where you want to go and start walking step by step into your future.
And your dream will become a reality.