In this article, we look at 5 ways to reclaim your power, step into your higher purpose and live the life you want to live.
These are all things taken from personal experiences which I’ve lived through and which by transforming I was able to create a better life for myself.
And I promise you, life gets better when you shine a light on these habits and transform them into more empowering ones.
So without further ado, let’s get started with number one: indecision. Are you ever annoyingly indecisive?
For me, it was a way of life until I discovered this secret weapon to help me create quick decisions every time.
Reclaim Your Power and Discover Your Inner Strength
1. The Secret Side to Indecision
Are you indecisive? Sure, sometimes indecision is a normal and natural part of life. But other times it’s something else.
First secret: being decisive is about deciding to be decisive! That may sound flippant but it’s true.
I used to spend hours wondering which was the ‘right’ decision and which was the ‘wrong’ one.
Secret number two: there’s no right or wrong decision.
I would stand for ages, torn, going back and forth, back and forth. What torment!
I thought it was just the way I was. I thought other people knew more about what they wanted, had skills which I didn’t have, and could somehow sense which was the ‘right’ decision.
But actually, when I realised that there’s no way to know which is the right answer because there actually isn’t one, and when I became aware that this was a choice to just take a leap and decide – yes really, a subconscious choice – then I decided to change and become decisive.
And that’s what I did.
Now every time I find myself being indecisive I become immediately aware that my brain is offering me old habits and I remind myself that there’s no right answer. I just have to pick one.
It isn’t like a maths exam in other words. Because both answers are right.
And if you make the wrong decision, you’ve still made the right decision.
Everything either takes us to where we want to go or teaches us something we need to learn.
So embrace the idea of no regrets and start practising decisiveness, as of right now.
2. Giving Responsibility Over to Others
Similar to being indecisive, this is when you tend to say ‘I don’t mind‘ when there’s a decision to be made.
So rather than being a leader and suggesting a restaurant where you could eat with friends, for example, you say the familiar (and easy) ‘I don’t mind, you choose.‘
Sure, sometimes you really might not mind.
But often this is a symptom of handing over the bottom-line responsibility to somebody else. Because if you choose the venue and then it’s no good, you may feel to blame.
And by passing over the decision to others, you con yourself that you’re being easy-going when in reality you’re actually avoiding responsibility. And being a people pleaser.
Once you recognise this slant you become aware of when you’re doing it and it becomes relatively easy to transform.
After all, if you voice your preferences and it all flops, that doesn’t actually make it your fault.
And so what if the ultimate responsibility does lie on your shoulders? What then?
Do you want everyone to like you? And do you subconsciously believe that by passing over the decision you help that to happen somehow?
This was huge for me. I never even realised that I was doing it.
Yet I always gave away my power to the group and hid behind the ‘I don’t mind’ facade.
Don’t believe it.
If you find yourself saying I don’t mind, ask yourself whether that’s really true. Or are you trying to be a people pleaser by fitting in with the group plans?
And this actually runs much deeper. It isn’t only about group plans.
Once this habit takes hold, you may find yourself asking for other people to approve your plans before you take action because that way they share the responsibility of your decision.
The negative side of this is that your decisions should really come from your heart. Not from the opinion of those around you.
So if you find yourself always seeking approval from family members or your spouse before you make a decision, you may well be falling into this trap.
Again, recognising it is a large part of transforming it.
3. Not Loving Your Body
Do you think it’s egoistic to love your body? Or maybe you think that other people have beautiful bodies but you don’t?
If you don’t know how to accept your body here’s a new way to look at that and it’s a huge game changer.
What if your body was leant to you for this life?
Did you design it yourself? No. Did you choose the colour of your natural hair? No. Do you make your heart beat and your lungs breathe? No.
So how can it be egoistic to love your body? It’s gratitude.
Loving your body is gratitude for being given an incredible machine, computer, software and hardware which works absolute miracles so that you can eat, breathe, walk, swim, sleep, or sit.
When you distance yourself like this, to look down upon your body as a gift, you won’t want to disrespect the body which you have for this lifetime.
Celebrate whatever you can do with your body even if you can’t do everything that other people can do, there’s still plenty we can be grateful for.
This changed my whole energy, which in turn changed my whole life.
4. Believing You’re Not Enough
How many of us go through life thinking that everyone else is better/smarter/taller/shorter/more beautiful/more whatever than we are?
What a mega way of giving away our power!
And the hilarious thing is that all the other people are doing the same! So they’re giving their power away to you and you’re giving your power away to them and we all believe the other person has it all figured out.
Newsflash: nobody has it perfectly figured out and everybody has flaws (assuming they’re human!).
When you find yourself feeling that you’re not good enough, take a moment to remind yourself of all the things you DO know and CAN do.
At the same time, keep the cup empty, knowing that we can always learn more and that it’s OKAY to not be perfect. It’s okay to screw up, make mistakes, say the wrong thing.
That’s just life.
So no more beating yourself up and feeling inadequate – instead accept the journey can be easy and it can be difficult.
5. Giving Away Power Over Your Wellbeing
This is so huge but also delicate. Because there are times when you’re really sick that you need to surrender and let other people take care of you.
So just to be clear – I’m not talking about those situations. I’m talking about when you can manage your health at home but you’ve received some kind of diagnosis or you have some kind of issue.
And so often we just throw our hands in the air and say, ‘Oh no, the doctor told me I have X disease. I’m sick. I have to take medicine for the rest of my life.’
And that’s the end of it. We’ve labelled ourselves and given away all our power over our own body.
But the truth is, the doctor’s job (at the time of writing!) is just a small portion of what actually creates health.
So while you may need a doctor and you may need to take medicine, that isn’t the whole picture. There’s always more you can do to support your health and wellbeing.
We can look at our diet, our stress levels, our alcohol intake, exercise routine, meditation sessions, our positive social interactions, our daily movement and more.
I recently (1 month ago) got diagnosed as having hypothyroidism, so I’m talking from experience when I say that the most liberating and empowering thing we can do when faced with a health issue is to first of all educate ourselves thoroughly on the disease/condition, secondly find support groups or a holistic medical practitioner and thirdly come up with a protocol to reclaim our health.
And yes, sometimes it will be tough. Sometimes you may have to go against the mainstream opinion or the opinion of your close friends and family.
But this is your health we’re talking about!
So if you have a health issue, please please please, don’t feel disempowered.
Instead, decide on an informed protocol and take action as best you can to provide your body with whatever it most needs for healing.
Final Thoughts on Giving Away Your Power
There aren’t many things more liberating than discovering a limiting belief and transforming it into a positive empowering one.
By recognising our tendencies we can change them.
There’s literally nothing we can’t transform once we become aware of it.
And it doesn’t stop there.
The journey is never-ending and ongoing. We can always strive to be healthier, happier, more productive and more positive people who give back more than we take from the world.
And when we transform ourselves we help others to transform too.
If you need support in your transformational journey, contact me for a free consultation.